I'm really anxious about making it in to grad school, but what are are some good ways to get awesome letters of recommendations. I have asked my previous English Prof for one and now she won't write them for me anymore, why is this?
First, stay calm about making it to grad school. Focus your energy on improving your grades, exam scores, extracurricular activities, and your personality rather than wasting it on fear and anxiety. Of course, if it gets to be too much, take a break and do something that will take your mind off your acceptance to grad school.
To get a good letter of recommendation you have to connect with your teachers. In some cases, I've noticed that students that don't do well in class but connect with the teachers often are the students the teachers know well. Thus their teachers can write them letters saying they are "sincere, and have good personalities." On the other hand, you can be a good student who does really well in the class but doesn't talk to the teacher, and still get a good letter of recommendation.
I would recommend getting on "the good side" of your teacher. Try not to have late assignments or bad excuses. If you need help, ask for it! Teachers really enjoy seeing their students improve after they ask for help.
As for your English teacher, it could be because you have already asked for a letter? You should ask/discuss with her why she can't write a second letter for you. Think from her perspective, maybe she thinks you didn't appreciate her letter/think it was sufficient enough. Explain your reason for why you want a second letter. If all else fails, try to stay calm and don't get disappointed or angry in front of her. Maybe your teacher has too many letters to write, so she might suggest going to another teacher.
Good luck getting your recommendation letter and getting into grad school!!
It sounds like she already wrote one for you before so that is probably why. I'm not 100% sure but I believe they can't write multiple for the same person.
I would ask early, and for it to be good what I've done is explain anything that might make me look bad. Like why i'm quiet in class. Let them know what might get in the way of you going above and beyond all the time. The more they know about you the better.
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