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@Lucymbrown
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 • 8 months ago •
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How Do I Get Over The Nerves Of Fear Of Failing?
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Hey, so I was wondering, how do I get over some of the nerves from the fear of failing? So sometimes I feel like I am doing a bunch of hard work for nothing and I won't get into my dream college... how do I get over that feeling? Sorry this probably seems like a dumb question.

Thank you for reading, and have a good day :)

-Lucy

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@moniher
2 answers, 3 votes
 • 8 months ago

Just remember you ARE enough, just because you don't get into your dream college

doesn't mean you've failed at all! It simply isn't what God had in store for you. There will always be other schools that will accept you. Where you go to college shouldn't define your worth (: Everyone has their ups and downs, and no matter what you will be able to push through it!

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[🎤 AUTHOR]@Lucymbrown8 months ago

Aw thank you so much 😊 and that's so true :)

@Jael_S2388 months ago

Love your insights, @moniher! So true. There WILL be a college that fits you just right, dream school or not. It is also surprising how many students end up transferring to a school that fits them better. Always an option; transfer students have less requirements. If you don't get into your dream school, you can try transferring later!

@futuredoc8 months ago

Love love love this @moniher! One thing you can do is just think for a minute about what your goals really are. Is your goal just to tell people you got into X awesome college, or that you went to college, got great grades, joined lots of extracurriculars, and made great friends? There's a quote that I like that says "If it's not going to matter in five years, don't spend more than five minutes being upset about it". What you should be thinking about is how you can become the best you can be.

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@gumdropsnlollipops
4 answers, 5 votes
 • 8 months ago

I'm a perfectionist so I have this same fear. Constantly remind yourself that there will always be someone academically better or smarter than you, but that doesn't make you a failure or less than. At the end of the day, even if you don't get into your target school, you will still be accepted into another one as long as you actually put in effort to the best of your capability. The best of everyone's capability obviously looks different on different people because we aren't the same. Life will carry on whether you get into your dream school or not. You will find a career and make money whether your degree is from Yale or community college. You will be fine. You can breathe.

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[🎤 AUTHOR]@Lucymbrown8 months ago

Thank you so much. I just want to get as far away as possible from where I am now, and I want to go to colleges and universities that are all where my grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins are. I just want to be near them, and if I don't get accepted to any colleges near there, I don't know what I would do then.

@gumdropsnlollipops8 months ago [edited]

I know how you feel. My boyfriend and I are 2 years long distance so I'm trying to apply to universities in his state and have my fingers crossed I'll be accepted. But once again, even if I don't, it's not the end of the world. We can always visit each other, and you can always visit your family. They're not going anywhere!

[🎤 AUTHOR]@Lucymbrown8 months ago

Most of my favorite people are about 2,000 miles away, so I want to be close to them. It's really hard because I want to be around them when I am overwhelmed with school stuff, but I can't be. :(

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@nitsat2006
2 answers, 3 votes
 • 8 months ago

You will never fail as long as you love what you do and why you are doing it!! Even if you don't get into your top schools, you have not failed anything. Even though it is hard to believe sometimes, you have to love yourself enough to know that no matter where you end up (even if it isn't your choice) you are amazing and hardworking. All the work you have put in isn't a waste because it helps you build yourself and your character which is the most important thing.

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[🎤 AUTHOR]@Lucymbrown8 months ago

That is so true, thank you!! :)

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