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β€’ 01/15/2021 at 06:49PM[edited]

How do I phrase this?

So I'm writing an essay and one of the sentences ends with "... affect me and my community". I've gotten 2 reviewers saying keep it as is, 1 saying to change it to my community and I, and another saying to have it be myself and my community. Which one should I use? Or is there a better phrase to use?

Edit: Please try to keep it to 4 words.

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3 answers

β€’ 01/15/2021 at 07:17PM[edited]

Grammatically, "affect my community and I" is incorrect because you only use "blank and I" when it's the subject, aka the one doing the verb. "affect my community and me" is grammatically correct, and so is "affect me and my community." It's up to you which one to pick, but I personally like "affect my community and me"

Accepted Answer
[🎀 AUTHOR]@DebaterMAX01/15/2021 at 09:10PM [edited]

So you recommend me and my community or my community and me?

@ajdekoninck01/16/2021 at 06:31PM

"my community and me"

β€’ 01/16/2021 at 12:37PM[edited]

It is actually "affect my community and me," I think so because you are not talking about just one human being. This is a place and a group of people should include the me at the end. I had the same problem, but my mom helped me fix that in my story.

I hoped this helped =)

Sorry if not...

β€’ 01/15/2021 at 07:40PM

Sorry, but don't listen to @ajdekoninck. The only correct way to word that phrase is "affect my community and me." Trust me on this. Or run it through if you don't believe me.

@ajdekoninck01/15/2021 at 08:04PM [edited]

Grammarly does say that, but I used other grammar checkers that found no problems with the other version

@user_jean_1301/15/2021 at 10:52PM

there is no "me and ____" in the English grammatical language. Period.

@gracecatan01/16/2021 at 12:27AM

@user_jean_13 You're free to share your opinions and thoughts and even respectfully disagree here, but please don't be rude or put down the thoughts and opinions of other people for any reason. It's okay to add your input to the conversation even if it's perfectly contrary to someone else's, but you should never straight up say, "don't listen to @person" because that's just rude. I hope you're able to take this gracefully and learn from this :)

@user_jean_1301/16/2021 at 12:35AM

What is grammatically correct is not a "thought or opinion" but a fact...

@gracecatan01/16/2021 at 12:52AM

Some laws of grammar are universal, but many are still open to debate depending on the manual that you follow (APA, Chicago, MLA, etc.) and the style/personal preference of the writer. Regardless, even facts should be contributed respectfully. You didn't have to put down @ajdekoninck to make your point. My problem was not with your input on the grammar but with the way you said it. All I'm saying is don't be rude. Does this make sense?

[🎀 AUTHOR]@DebaterMAX01/16/2021 at 07:48PM